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If you are new here, you may want to read about the sorrowful event that inspired this small project.

While researching a way to reach out to the homeless community, I was reminded our church has an established ministry with the people who live in Denver’s Civic Center Park. Once a month, for the past 7 years, a group meets with people who need the basics in life. They deliver donations of food, medicine, clothing, sleeping bags, and many other items that make life on the streets and parks safer and more bearable. A woman named Cathy Speck runs the ministry.

I chatted with her about what is going on these days. Is there an increase in homelessness? One thing she’s noticed is the community seems to be getting younger and includes many more families than in the past. These aren’t the hardened, grizzled men people stereotype and fear. They are simply people who are like you or like me. They are people who once had homes, jobs, and normal lives.

I’ve been in contact with Jeffrey’s brother. He told me that Jeffrey had only been homeless since late May. He is trying to piece together the last few months of his brother’s life. I hope he finds answers and understanding.

Because there is so much work to do, it is apparent people need to work together. The church’s website mentions fast food gift cards as a way to help. I would love it if you would join me in donating fast food gift cards that will be distributed during the group’s next outing on September 17th.

Why fast food gift cards?

1. A little bit of money goes a long way.

2. Restaurants are cool in the summer and warm in the winter.

3. With a gift card in hand, people are welcomed as customers.

4. In an urban setting, fast food restaurants are plentiful and easily accessible.

Will you consider sending a fast food gift card to give a person a boost? This is something that won’t change a life, but it’s a way to relieve a burden. It’s simple. You can involve your children. Our kids are going to help with record-keeping. They are too young to help pass out the cards, but they aren’t too young to understand the power of a community of caring people, united.

If you are interested in helping, please send an email to me through my contact form, or if you already have my email address use that. The cards would need to arrive in Denver by September 15th in order to be distributed this month. Also, I’ll be happy to answer questions. I would appreciate it if you spread the word through Twitter or Facebook or at your own blogs. I have never, in nearly 7 years of doing this hobby thingie, done anything like this. It’s a small start, but multiplied with the help of friends, it can turn into something beautiful.

Thanks, everyone.

(title from Ecclesiastes 3:13 NIV)

(edited to add: Please feel free to leave a comment if you want me to email the address to you, or use the contact form. Also, the coordinator said McDonald’s and Burger King are the best bets. They are close, easily accssible walking or via bus)

Kindergarten is German for “Who Stole My Baby?”

I know so many moms who have kindergarten kids this year. I am one of them. Bea started kindergarten 2 weeks ago. I expected for her to exhibit certain quirks these first few weeks of school. I shared these normal quirks of the kindergarten kiddo over at Mile High Mamas. Is it normal for a 45 pound child to come home from school and eat 4 apples and a jar of peanut butter? Do they all fall asleep around 6:00 pm?

Go say hello! You don’t have to live in Denver or even Colorado. Nobody will check to see if you have a Colorado State ID. You don’t have to be a Mama. You don’t even have to have a kid in kindergarten.

Build a better nursing lounge

“Why don’t more moms use nursing lounges provided in public places, like malls, churches, and other businesses?”

I read this concern in a comment thread regarding public breastfeeding. A man stated he saw lounges but didn’t think women used them. His evidence was seeing women breastfeeding near the lounges but not in the lounges.

Moms are legally protected to nurse whenever and wherever they want. Some lactivists fear public nursing lounges make nursing in public more taboo because women are expected to use them. I welcome them, however. If a mom nurses longer because she knows there will always be a comfortable, clean, private place available, it’s a good thing.

I have some thoughts about public nursing lounges and why they could be under-used.

1. They are often inconveniently located. Many nursing lounges are built near far-flung bathrooms or in empty hallways. If malls or other public venues have the space to build a nursing lounge, they don’t exactly give away the prime locations first. Location seems to be an afterthought. Build the lounges where moms want to be. If that means sacrificing 100 sq. feet of space, make that sacrifice.

2. The chairs are uncomfortable. Sorry, nursing lounge designer. Straight-backed chairs with wooden armrests do not make for a comfy nursing session. Benches are more comfortable, so that’s where mama and baby have parked themselves. Moms appreciate comfort. Wide chairs with soft cushioning make everyone happy. Even better? Glider rockers and footrests! Make the lounge seem like a haven of comfort, not an Oil ‘N Lube Center waiting room.

3. The lighting is annoying. A nursing lounge is not a bathroom without toilets. Ditch the florescent ceiling panels. Invest in soft lighting. Natural light is best. Lamps make lounges seem homey and comfy, too.

4. Where’s the table? Nursing moms get very, very thirsty. It’s nice to have a table next to the chair so water bottles and cups can be handy. In fact, it would be nice to have a filtered water cooler with cups just in case sudden thirst strikes. A table would be a nice spot for a lamp, too. (see #3)

5. No decent place to change diapers. I know they are handy and save room, but I loathe diaper deck pop-down changing tables. They are never clean. They never feel entirely sturdy. Include a real changing table that doesn’t look like it was last sat upon by an incontinent chimp.

6. No place to wash hands. If you are going to have a coveted nice changing table, have a sink with nice soaps and lotions. Moms wash their hands a lot. We universally agree rough, dry hands are a bummer. A sink would be a welcome spot to rinse bottles, binkies, and freshen up a bit. It’s still not a bathroom, though. Don’t even think about putting a toilet in there…

7. Older children are forgotten. Many moms shop with more than baby in tow. Older kids, particularly toddlers and preschoolers, have a hard time waiting while mom feeds baby bro or sis. Outside on a bench or at a food court table kids can find distractions and people to watch. Inside the glorified phone booth of a nursing lounge, not so much. Why would a mom want to take her hungry baby, her active toddler, and her busy preschooler into a room with a chair and little else? She wouldn’t. Bead puzzle boxes, funny mirrors, books, chalkboards, and other hands-on activities can occupy little ones effectively.

8. You don’t have a real door?! When I was visiting my hometown this summer, I decided to check out the local mall’s nursing lounge. It seemed like the best location to feed Teddy at the time. The nursing lounge was okay. Comfy-enough chair. But the door was a bathroom stall-style door. Consequently, Archie kept darting under the door. Back and forth, under and under and under. Nursing moms can’t leap to their feet to chase after escaped toddlers. I’m not sure why they thought a half-door would be welcome or smart.

9. No place to put a stroller? Invest in enough space so that a stroller will fit comfortably in the room. Also, use doors that aren’t heavy/industrial/difficult to open. There’s a lot to wrangle. Doors that open with the push of a button are a godsend.

10. Unclean! I’ve seen nursing lounges with dirty furniture, trash on floors, general grime. Obviously, some nursing moms are disgusting pigs and I apologize on their behalf. But it would be nice for the cleaning crews to pop in and make sure all is well in the comfy nursing haven of my dreams. Maintenance is essential.

Nursing lounges can make all the difference to a mom who is on the fence regarding breastfeeding. She could be fearful of nursing in public, so they are an important option to give to women. The “if you build it, they will come” school of thought doesn’t apply. It won’t work. Designers of nursing lounges need to grasp this truth:

If a park bench near Cheezee Pretzelz is more inviting, you are doing something wrong. When the scorching hot minivan seems alluring, you are doing something wrong. If a mom teeters over a toilet with her howling newborn baby because you decided to locate the lounge down two levels by Men’s Jumpsuit Hutch, you are doing something wrong.

I’m sure I’m forgetting other elements of a dream nursing lounge. What would you include?